Why do some parents think they have this kind of power...why do they think their kids should give them that kind of power...
I have a partner. I have 4. They are my husband and kids. As parents we do not have power over them. We make decisions together and explain why some things are done a certain way...like using quiet voices in a restaurant or not having freezies for breakfast...even if we have them for lunch...respect for others is our theme around here...everyday.
Take bedtime...we don't have a set bedtime...they start to get tired around 7pm, so we help them get ready for bed and by 9pm everyone under 8 years old is asleep. Our 16 year old...she's still up after we've retired for the evening....except during her school year. She 's out at around 10pm cause she knows that's what she needs to do to get up in the morning.
Leaving somewhere they clearly would never want to leave. It's a freakin' nightmare and I've seen the meltdowns some people have to deal with....like a playground or Grandma's or the beach...but it never has been for us. We sit down before we leave to figure out what time would be good to get home by....we have to prepare dinner for my husband's return from work at 4pm. but maybe there's an errand before we head home and we work back from that...we need to be home by 3:30 so we will need to leave by 2:45...They will ask what time it is or how much time they have left...around 2:30 the mad dash to get the last playtime in begins, but at 2:45 they are always ready to go...event he 3 year old...they know that we will be back another time and that they are not the centre of the universe and other things need to get done.
We don't have power struggles in our house...our teenage daughter is getting easier to be around everyday, I do see where parents make mistakes and end up frustrated and confused and angry. I've been there, but since i have started treating them like equals, its been smooth sailing.
I have a partner. I have 4. They are my husband and kids. As parents we do not have power over them. We make decisions together and explain why some things are done a certain way...like using quiet voices in a restaurant or not having freezies for breakfast...even if we have them for lunch...respect for others is our theme around here...everyday.
Take bedtime...we don't have a set bedtime...they start to get tired around 7pm, so we help them get ready for bed and by 9pm everyone under 8 years old is asleep. Our 16 year old...she's still up after we've retired for the evening....except during her school year. She 's out at around 10pm cause she knows that's what she needs to do to get up in the morning.
Leaving somewhere they clearly would never want to leave. It's a freakin' nightmare and I've seen the meltdowns some people have to deal with....like a playground or Grandma's or the beach...but it never has been for us. We sit down before we leave to figure out what time would be good to get home by....we have to prepare dinner for my husband's return from work at 4pm. but maybe there's an errand before we head home and we work back from that...we need to be home by 3:30 so we will need to leave by 2:45...They will ask what time it is or how much time they have left...around 2:30 the mad dash to get the last playtime in begins, but at 2:45 they are always ready to go...event he 3 year old...they know that we will be back another time and that they are not the centre of the universe and other things need to get done.
We don't have power struggles in our house...our teenage daughter is getting easier to be around everyday, I do see where parents make mistakes and end up frustrated and confused and angry. I've been there, but since i have started treating them like equals, its been smooth sailing.
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